Sometimes questions are asked by a Stander, and my first thought is, “Why is that relevant? Why does it matter how, when, what, and why?”

And as the Stander proceeds to talk, they reveal the reasons why that question is so important to them. Somewhere along the journey, a giant was created, and from that giant, doubts, fears, and concerns that because their situation is so “different,” they need reassurance that their giant is not a giant and can be overcome.

What are some of these giants that we create?

Let’s put them BACK into their rightful place and size by understanding them; these giants are nothing more than a detail to God, not a detail that makes God worry, doubt, or struggle. These details are nothing that causes God to question or cause Him to fear! No, that is OUR struggle.

Some of these details that are giants are: if our spouses have gone no contact,  if there are no children, or if they have children with another person. If they move out of the state or country. If they buy a house with them or even get married to them. 

These giants that we create can be anything. Anything that makes us think or feel that our situation is too big, hard, or impossible. I’ve heard many say, “I don’t believe that it’s not too impossible for God, but I do believe that my spouse is too stubborn, too selfish, too rebellious.”  This shows that they have made their spouse a giant! Believing so much in their spouse’s new state of hard-heartedness, they have enlarged them to the point where the size of their spouse’s issues is blocking them from seeing the size of God!

Sometimes the giant is the Stander. They may have mistreated their spouse, or even been the one that left the marriage and had an affair. They have turned what they did into a giant and can’t see how their spouse will ever forgive them.

I had giants. My giants were my weight and my lack of having things in common with my husband that the OW had. I believed he had no reason to ever want me as long as he had her, and  I could never measure up and compete with her.

I took what my husband shared with me in his lost, selfish, hard-hearted state of mind and let his in-the-moment feelings become GIANTS. 

Giant #1 was that he no longer loved me.

Giant #2 was that he ……. I won’t bore you with my many giants. I will tell you that each of these giants was so big they blocked how big God was. While I went to God about my giants, I was not able to see God in His proper abilities and capabilities. That is what giants do. They maximize themselves and make everything else pale in comparison, even GOD ALMIGHTY!

Giants Intimidate

Let’s talk about what that means.

You shall not be partial in judgment. You shall hear the small and the great alike. You shall not be intimidated (guwr) by anyone, for the judgment is God’s. And the case that is too hard for you, you shall bring to me, and I will hear it.’ Deut 1:17

  1. guwr -stir up strife, quarrel, dread.  

When studying this word, it led me to this scripture

They do not cry out to Me from their heart When they wail on their beds [in unbelieving despair]; For the sake of grain and new wine they assemble themselves [as if worshiping Baal]; They rebel against Me. Hosea 7:14

We become intimidated by the giants of our situations because of unbelief which brings despair. In our unbelief of God, Who He is, His ability DESIRE to help, we create giants which bring fear, lies, worry, and destruction to our faith.

We think it’s the detail in itself that is the creator of the detail, when in fact, it’s our inability to BELEIVE God! You don’t have to change that detail in order for fear, worry, and discouragement to go away. No, all you need to have changed is your belief in God, and that giant will go away! You will be able to hope, become excited, and be encouraged again. 

So belief cometh of hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ. Romans10:17

So again, your giant is NOT coming from the detail your spouse has created, but from your lack of belief in Who God is and that He is ABLE!  Become a giant slayer today by increasing your knowledge of Him through reading the Word!

Standing with you in Christ Jesus!
Sheila Hollinger

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