“We are ONE FLESH!” I shouted at the top of my lungs, reminding the enemy. I used my authority and rebuked everything I could off my husband. I prayed for his inner man to rise up, wake up and seek God to save his perishing soul. I prayed from a place of fear and worry. He had just left the house for work, being cold and distant again. His mood swings were giving me emotional whiplash. I had woken up in a good mood, optimistic and hopeful because we had a good night. Now, I was in fear, wondering if him being withdrawn meant he had plans for the evening and I would be pacing the floor till 3 am?

My fear suddenly turned to anger as again I said: “WE ARE ONE FLESH.” But, this time I was angry at that. I did not want to be YOKED to him in such a way that I was drug down to the pit every time HE made a bad decision. I woke up with joy, only to have it taken away as soon as my husband revealed his mood to me.

I changed my stomping around the living room, to laying on my face in tears to God. “Deliver me from this, God. I don’t want my joy, my peace, my comfort, my calm, and my emotions, to be contingent on what my husband is doing, feeling, acting, saying, or how he is treating me. HELP ME GOD TO BE FREE!!!!”

Quietly I heard the Holy Spirit say, “do you know a man can be one flesh with a prostitute?” ………….”WHAT?? Why are you telling me this God? Yes, I had read that BUT, I am his wife and I do understand that a soul connection can be made with another through sex, but?? Are you asking me to pray against soul ties?”

He led me to read the passage again to get my answer……

Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.”  1 Cor 6:16 ESV


17 But he who is joined to the Lord becomes ONE spirit with Him.

That is where I found freedom! To be one in flesh is powerful right? But are we not trying to DIE to flesh and live, walk, be controlled by the Spirit of God? Isn’t it the flesh that hinders our spiritual walk with God? Of course, that made so much sense!!! I was being controlled and hindered by my feelings and emotions because of my one flesh connection to my spouse. One flesh connections are GREAT when you BOTH are following and submitting to God….but HORRIBLE when you are not yoked equally.

That day everything changed for me. I was tired of being tethered in my flesh (feelings, emotions) to my spouse. I wanted to be JOINED to the Lord and BE ONE in Spirit with HIM.

What I did not anticipate was the FEAR that came with this revelation. As I tried to pray that scripture of being one with God, I felt such fear, a true letting go of my flesh to come higher with God. I felt the guilt of ‘letting go’ of my husband. I had never known anything but that one flesh connection. I knew God’s word to be true and I knew He had led me to this revelation to help me be free from the torment I’d been experiencing for almost 7 years!

So, even though I was afraid, I made my choice. “God, I want to be ONE in Spirit with You! I want to be joined in every way possible with You! I choose YOU over any unhealthy flesh connections with my spouse.”

This was one of the best choices I ever made! It was through this elevation in my spirit, that my prayers for my one flesh became more powerful, more insightful and filled with more authority. It was nice to be praying from a place of peace and not fear. Faith and not circumstances! It was nice to really understand what letting God have my spouse felt like. I have become a more stable person. My spouse’s moods and choices no longer have the power to control my moods, as long as I remind myself of my more powerful connection to God in the Spirit!

that all of them may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I am in You. May they also be in Us, so that the world may believe that You sent Me. John 17:21

You, however, are controlled not by the flesh, but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. Romans 8:9

I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me. Galatians 2:20

Father, I pray for all Standers that are on an emotional roller coaster because of their one-flesh connection to seek a higher connection with YOU; to come to a place of freedom and hope that only YOU provide; to not let the fear of letting go of the ungodly flesh connections stop them from attaining a deeper connection in their spirits with You. I pray You come in a deeper love, understanding, and revelation to each Stander reading this, so they will be FREE in JESUS’ NAME of the emotional pain, torment, and bondage because of the choices their spouses are making right now. Help them get to a place of refuge IN YOU, so they can pray with all authority for their spouse from a place of PEACE! In Jesus’ MIGHTY, and POWERFUL NAME! AMEN!!!!

Standing with you,
eila Hollinger