It’s very sad that the enemy recognizes our spouse’s identity and understands their purpose in the Kingdom of God more then we do.

 The enemy knows if your spouse becomes free from their snare, they will wreak havoc on their kingdom. They will prevent the demons from serving their purpose- which is to win souls to satan, keep God’s children lukewarm, blind and in darkness, and bound up in the ways of the world.

We either don’t know this or fail to remember that satan is out to do the very thing God is doing. We are in war saints! And, sadly, the body of Christ doesn’t seem to be winning!!

As I was reading one of our Standers updates today, God started to speak to me about this soldier for Christ, who has been given a very hard assignment to counter-attack the powerful assassination assignment the enemy of God has placed upon his wife. To fight for her and do what she has not been able to do, stand-alone against this assignment.  He has had to deny his flesh of wanting to be happy and without pain. To suffer, by choice for her freedom!

Is that not what a real soldier does? Has a love for something and is willing to die for it?

MANY OF GOD’S children have these assignments against them. I don’t know how it works, but the enemy knows who God’s Children are before they even do. They know who will be a great opponent, and they will begin the “steal, kill, destroy” assignments against them right away. They will recognize the gifts (Ephesians 4:11:12) they are born with and covet to have them used for the kingdom of satan, to advance his kingdom and give him glory.

Many of us are not aware of these assignments against our spouse because at the same time, the enemy hardens your heart in pain and hate and has you fixed and stuck on what is being done TO you, so you won’t see what is coming AT them.

They continue to bombard you day and night with “me, myself, and I” type situations, picking continually at your wounds so they keep bleeding and never leaving you alone so they can heal. They are skilled at keeping themselves hidden so you don’t even see or know they are there; you just SEE YOUR SPOUSE and what is being done by them to YOU.

We as Christians, are supposed to know our enemy and what he is set out to do. None of us ever want to think or consider that satan has set their sights on us or our spouse to turn us into his child. But the Word talks about this. And we see this now more than ever in our world all over. See the scriptures below.

Some will argue and say, if we became entangled and unequally yoked to one of these children, then God wants us out of this. The problem is, how do you know they are satan’s sons? How would you know if this was not a child of God captured and snared and doing the work of the enemy? Where most of us not following the world and its ways(which belongs to satan) before we came to Christ? How many testimonies have we seen of people who were rescued and set free by Jesus?

I personally look at everyone as a child of God, with HOPE for their salvation and rescue unless God tells me otherwise, and even then, I make darn sure again and again that I am hearing Him correct through a LOT of confirmation.

Satan wants to blind you to his work. He wants to immobilize you and keep you from being a strong opponent. He wants to keep you so wrapped up in your own hurt and pain that you become incapacitated and no longer a threat to him. He simply makes you self-absorbed and you are no longer an enemy to him. No longer someone, he has to worry about. No longer are you raiding his camp to take back what was stolen from you. He no longer has to be on guard with you, defending his plunder. Worse, if he keeps you in self-centered mode, he can actually get you on his side and use you to advance his assignments.

Look at Jesus. He was sent into the wilderness for 40 days to be led around by satan (yes, He FOLLOWED satan) through this testing obstacle course. Like “What you got satan? Give it to Me! I will take your test and prove that I have what it takes. I will EARN the measure of what I have been given and prove that I am worthy of the task.” Our lives are not 40 days of wilderness it’s a lifetime of being tested. Satan never gives up. He comes to test us and prove if we have what it takes to be an opponent.

You have assignments. To pass the tests satan throws your way. To resist his wilderness challenges. Overcome the temptations and recognize the snares and not fall into them.

I have been doing this ministry for 5 years. In that time, I have seen ONE thing to be true, regardless of if the marriage was saved and restored. Standing has shown people their assignment. Shown them their identity. Shown them the truth about being a child of satan or of God and how they have to be mindful of who they are choosing to follow. Standing for their marriage has opened the blind eyes they had at how they were lukewarm and didn’t even care. So lost in the lie that it was ok to say the sinner’s prayer and then remain an infant.

Standing for marriage restoration is saving souls and waking up His children who have been alseep.

There is a battle raging for souls. Who really has yours? Who has your spouse’s?
Can you testify? Can you say this was you? 
Standing with you,
Sheila Hollinger
Just as God has plans for you and you are seeking to know and find them out, know the enemy also has plans. Plans to make you one of his own by getting you to believe his lies, desire the ways of the world, the lusts of the flesh, seek out your own happiness above suffering. See these scriptures:

“You are a child of the devil and an enemy of everything that is right! You are full of all kinds of deceit and trickery. Will you never stop perverting the right ways of the Lord? Acts 13:10

The field is the world, and the good seed represents the sons of the kingdom. The weeds are the sons of the evil one, Matt 13:38

You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out his desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, refusing to uphold the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, because he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44

Then we will no longer be infants, tossed about by the waves and carried around by every wind of teaching and by the clever cunning of men in their deceitful scheming. Eph 4:14

They have left the straight way and wandered off to follow the way of Balaam son of Beor, who loved the wages of wickedness. 2 Peter 2:15


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